
As a relationship coach and a female human, I’ve read so much dating advice directed at women. I’ve found that too many can be damaging, sexist, or easily misinterpreted.
If you’re a woman who’s newly dating, young, or just need a reality check, here is the advice you should roll your eyes at:
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1. “They’re only being mean because they like you.”
I was probably nine when someone first advised me on the “ways of love”. I had a crush on a neighbour boy named Evan who frequently kicked me on the playground.
I didn’t understand why he’d sometimes be so mean to me. Then a teacher told me: “He’s only mean because he likes you, Tara!”
My eyes lit up with understanding. S**ttiness equals love.
Ugh. Could there be anything more ruinous than telling a young girl that? Anything more likely to set her up for spending a lifetime of putting up with nonsense from unkind people?
If someone likes you, they should ONLY show it with kindness. Never take unkindness or disrespect as a sign that someone likes you.
2. “Give them a chance, even if you’re not interested.”
This advice assumes that you don’t know what you want, but if you went on a date with that (boring/rude/unattractive, etc.) person, you might find exactly what you were looking for.