Meet the women over 50 turning to escorts to save their marriages.

Caitlyn* was 30 when she met her husband, John* in a bar 35 years ago. Their relationship was great, so was their sex life. Over time, though, things started to change — first in public, then at home, until there was almost no intimacy left. Eventually, John's health issues made sex impossible, and he refused to seek help. Caitlyn felt invisible.

"For 15 years, there was nothing — not just no sex, but affection, companionship. I felt like I didn't matter anymore," she said. Caitlyn tried everything to reignite the spark, but nothing worked.

By the time she was 60, Caitlin realised she wasn't ready to give up on feeling desired. Searching online, she stumbled across an escort agency, Her Confidant. She wasn't looking for sex, just companionship. Someone to go to concerts with, to sit across from at dinner and feel seen.

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"I wanted to feel like I mattered again," she said. So, she booked an escort for a group outing to ease into the experience.

Caitlyn was nervous, but the escort put her at ease right away.

"He smiled at me like I was the only person in the room. He looked me in the eyes — not past me, not through me. That alone made me feel incredible."

Their first outing was a lunch with friends and a theatre show. He was affectionate but respectful, making her feel desired without pressure.

"The way he touched my hand during the show — subtle, but intentional — made me feel alive again."

She started seeing him more frequently, and their dates evolved from social outings to more intimate moments, including sex. 

"It wasn't just about sex, though. It was about feeling like a woman again," she said. "Even though it was a paid service, I never felt like it was transactional. He made me feel valued."

Caitlyn hasn't told her husband, but said her secret has changed her marriage for the better. 

"I'm happier now, and that happiness affects how I treat my husband," she explained. "Ironically, being with someone else has made me a better companion to him. I don't feel resentful anymore.

"I know my husband would be hurt if he found out, but this wasn't about betraying him. It was about finding a way to be happy within our marriage."

Caitlyn is also pushing back against the stereotype that women stop wanting sex as they get older.

"I thought I didn't care anymore, but I was just deprived for so long that I convinced myself it didn't matter. It does. We all deserve to feel wanted."

"When we finally had sex, it was incredible."

At 56, Sarah* was decades into a marriage with a man she loved. For most of their marriage, they had a great sex life — until health complications changed everything. A serious work injury left Keiran* with limited physical ability. 

"We tried different things — sex toys, new techniques — but it started to feel mechanical, like I was just going through the motions. I missed the connection," Sarah said. "I didn't want to pressure him, but I also didn't want to give up on that part of myself."

It was Keiran who first brought up the idea of an escort. "A couple of years ago, he suggested it to spice things up. Back then, I dismissed it. But as time passed, I started wondering if it could actually help."

After several lengthy discussions, they made the decision together.

"I wanted to experience intimacy with someone who could be fully present," Sarah said. "My husband understood. We saw this as something that could strengthen our marriage, not replace it."

"I nearly cancelled four times," she recalled. "But my husband reassured me; this was something we were doing for us."

Meeting Sam* was nerve-wracking at first, but over dinner, Sarah began to relax. "He was charming and attentive, and I stopped overthinking. It felt natural."

Back at the hotel, Sarah said that her escort took things slowly. "He massaged me, held my hand — little things that made me feel truly cared for. When we finally had sex, it was incredible. I hadn't felt that level of connection in years. I knew instantly that we had made the right decision. 

"Later that night, when my husband and I were together, it was the best sex we'd had in years. He could see how happy I was, and that turned him on, too."

Sarah feels no guilt, only gratitude. "This didn't hurt our marriage. It saved it. We talk more now, we're more open about our needs, and we feel more connected than ever. We even joked, 'We didn't think we could love each other more—we were wrong.'"

While she has no immediate plans to see an escort again, Sarah and Keiran have agreed to keep the option open. "This wasn't about betrayal — it was about finding a way to make things work. And it did."

"His cheating made it impossible for me to let go in bed."

When 62-year-old Lisa* met her husband, Greg*, through work, she found him handsome and charming. Their sex life was pretty good, but over time, routine took over, and trust issues eroded their intimacy.

"Once we had kids, sex became an afterthought. And honestly, it wasn't that great to begin with," she admitted. 

But the real damage came from her husband's infidelity. 

"Just before we got married, I found out he had cheated. And over the years, I had my suspicions. That made it impossible for me to fully let go in bed."

Lisa started doubting herself, and feeling like it was her responsibility to dissuade her husband from straying. "I thought if I looked a certain way or acted a certain way, he'd stay faithful. But in trying to keep him happy, I lost myself."

As she neared retirement, Lisa began questioning everything. "I kept thinking, 'Have I wasted my life? What if I never experience truly great sex?'"

A podcast triggered the idea of hiring an escort, and she spontaneously made a booking during a trip interstate. 

"Just making that decision felt empowering. It was the most selfish thing I'd ever done, in the best way possible."

Meeting her escort, Hudson, was a revelation.

"He was confident, attentive, and so incredibly respectful," she said. "It was the kind of intimacy I'd never experienced before — gentle, passionate, like a dance."

The experience shifted things in Lisa's marriage.

"I started initiating new things, and my husband responded. He's more attentive now. But if things don't improve, I know I have options."

Lisa has also started seeing a sexologist, determined to explore her desires further.

"I don't know what the future holds, but I do know this — I deserve pleasure. I deserve happiness. And I won't settle for less anymore."

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