“I want you to have all the information I never had access to before this person destroyed me.”
One woman is on a mission to make sure her abusive ex-boyfriend doesn’t make his new girlfriend his next victim.
In a Google document being shared on social media, the woman writes a lengthy letter to the new woman in the Brooklyn-based man’s life.
She says she was inspired to spread the word after discovering her ex had been having unprotected sex with her and at least five other women. “I wanted to do everything I could to make sure all parties involved had the information they need,” she says.
“I hope you’ll take this as just a gentle warning to be careful and fully aware about what is going on during the course of your interaction with him; something I never had the opportunity to be.
“Please watch out for any warning signs of abuse; our relationship started a lot like yours, probably: developing super quickly, telling me he loves me right away, trying to get me to be exclusive with him as soon as possible, all this crazy passion, and all really, really quick.”
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The woman said the duo began dating in April and, in May, she discovered she was pregnant. She had an abortion – an experience she found “extremely scarring”. By late June, her partner was acting strange and dropping hints that he had been checking up on her. She discovered he had been logging into her email account up to 10 times a day.
“I thought that was it, that I was done with the disrespect, done with all of it. I tried to cut it off then, but got reeled back in, as one is wont to do when getting involved with sociopaths. ProTip: put secondary verification on all your accounts NOW.”