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Who is Lex Delarosa and is she trolling us all?

Take a scroll through Lex Delarosa's social media pages and you'll find her doing one of four things: cooking from scratch, decorating her immaculate home, spending time with her children, or sharing a 'day in the life'. Occasionally she'll throw a fashion or make-up post into the mix. 

In every video, Delarosa wears a full face of make-up. Her hair sits perfectly (unless up in '50s-style rollers), her outfits expertly styled, ranging from chic ensembles to tulle princess dresses. 

Delarosa moves slowly and ethereally like a fairy godmother. She wears an unmoving smile, and her eyes often appear to be closed. Watching her videos can leave you feeling simultaneously disturbed and envious. 

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The 29-year-old is a stay-at-home mum who appears to relish in home duties and home-schooling her two children, despite them being just one and three years old.

With the rise in popularity of what's become known online as 'trad wives' (a movement where women proudly submit to their husbands), Delarosa's popularity has also grown. She now has hundreds of thousands of followers. 

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But ... is she for real? That's what many of her followers are asking, as they watch, bewildered, at the increasingly unusual videos she posts.  

"This account is the creepiest thing on the internet. Seriously the stuff of nightmares," wrote one follower. 

"What is wrong with this lady?" writes another. There are hundreds of similar comments. Others are convinced the account is satire, and Delarosa is trolling us all. 

"Oh okay, she's joking," writes one.  

"It's called satire people."

"I believe that this is got to be one of the most dedicated satirical or troll pages ever."

"If this is satire, she's absolutely brilliant. If it's real, I'm scared."

@lex.delarosa day in my life as a homeschooling mom of two 🤍 #momsoftiktok #homemaker #homemaking #sahm #momlife #ditl #homeschool #homeschooling ♬ original sound - Alexia
@lex.delarosa celebrating 48 months of marriage with crème brûlée ✨ #cremebrulee #homemaker #homemaking #anniversary #marriedlife #sahm ♬ Little Things - Adrian Berenguer

So is Lex Delarosa's content satire?

Speaking to Jo Piazza for the Under the Influence podcast, Delarosa said she didn't have a straightforward answer to the question. 

"It's kind of just evolved from me sharing my daily life. I got a lot of negative feedback, people saying that's not how people live. I got so much hate for what I thought was very mild and wholesome content."

People started commenting on the fact she didn't smile. So, she started smiling more. But people didn't like that either. 

"If I'm having my normal resting face people say I look miserable, if I'm smiling people say that looks weird, so I just do what I think is going to look nice. 

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"There are some videos that are obvious I'm responding to negative comments, and making fun of those comments," she says, citing one video of making a mammoth cake to celebrate her son's '42nd month', while wearing full makeup and a princess dress. 

While Delarosa admits she's not always dressed in tulle for the day, she says she is sharing her authentic life. 

Before having children, Delarosa and her 37-year-old husband, Matthew had determined the type of life they wanted. He'd work, she'd be a stay at home mum.

"We like traditional gender roles, letting the man be the provider for the family, let me be home, and that's just always been a part of my nature," says Delarosa. "I love baking and cooking and I love babies."

Delarosa says her decision was her own, not her husband's, based on wanting to do things differently to her parents. 

"Both of my parents worked. My siblings and I went to public school. I just wanted to do something different for my kids. I had great parents, I always had the things that I needed, but I wanted it to be different to my boys."

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But, is she a trad wife?

While Delarosa has been labelled a #tradwife, she says she doesn't think of herself that way. 

"I can see how it is applicable. I've done some interviews around the trad wife lifestyle and I think a lot of the points do match, (but) we just do things the way that we do them."

She says the biggest difference is the presence of submission and rules in 'trad wife' households. 

"We do have certain ways that we do things here, but it's not so cut and dry. Sometimes I do get worried about women who are submissive to their husbands."

Delarosa says, where trad wives make decisions to make their husbands happy, such as dressing in a certain way because that's how their husband likes it, or request permission to go out, she makes her own decisions. 

"I'm not filing a request to my husband to change my hair, or ask him 'Do you like this dress today?' I (dress the way I do) 100 per cent for me. It's a bonus that he likes it and he thinks that I'm pretty and he likes the way that I dress. That is the cherry on top.

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"It's not me changing who I am to fit his ideal of what he wanted a wife to look like."

What about the haters?

As much as she receives praise, Delarosa receives plenty of hate too, ranging from poking light fun to the extreme of wishing murder on her. 

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"Most of my negative feedback is from other women, but I do get some men leaving negative comments. 

"We should be delighted seeing other models of motherhood but we kind of rip them to shreds. I never say this is how you're supposed to live. I don't even talk in my videos 99 per cent of the time."

She doesn't block the haters though. In fact, they've helped her gain more followers, which in turn has allowed her to monetise her accounts. 

"I let people make their assumptions, they can think my life looks however they want to in their head," she says. 

"It does bring in income. It felt silly to not capitalise on that while I can. I've just decided to go with it this year, since it was something I was already doing, and it's been really great and a blessing for our family for sure."

And, she says, the money is for her to use as she sees fit, given her husband takes his role as provider quite seriously.

"I do always ask: 'Are you sure I don't need to kick you some money?' We just save it, it's nice to have money tucked away. And now I just do random house projects, using my own money. It's nice to have it there in case we do need it."

So is it satire? It kind of appears not to be... 

Feature Image: Instagram/@lex.delarosa.

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