Before you judge me, hear me out.
“My 4-year-old son’s grandparents want to come visit him for the first time, and I’m not sure if I should let them.”
The above was posted to Reddit by a user who goes by the name asaou.
Before you start raging about all grandparents having the right to see their grandchildren you need to hear this man’s story, and then you can offer advice. Because ultimately, that’s was he is asking for.
‘asaou’ is a single father, and his wife has never been in the picture. He explains that his son’s mother died during childbirth and says, “it’s always just been me and him.”
He goes on to explain that his deceased wife's parents have been diagnosed as narcissists and were cut out of his life when she was pregnant because of the stress they caused her. He explains that they called her a 'slut' over the phone for getting pregnant at 20 and then denied they'd ever said it and would start talking about everything they were going to do with their next grandchild.
He writes that they'd verbally and emotionally abuse his deceased wife for hours when she was a child and she told him that they treated her like a dress-up doll.
"My own parents have looked after my son before, and he knows what ‘normal’ grandparents are meant to be like – but he’s never met anybody from his mother’s side of the family, and I think it might be getting to him a bit, because he often looks through our photo albums and he especially likes to look at his mother's baby photos," asaou wrote.
Recently his in-laws called him and demanded they see their grandson. He doesn't even know how his in-laws got a contact number. He initially refused and told them he wants them nowhere near his child so they don't treat him like they treated their own daughter. He told them his wife would've wanted the same. Apparently they then "flipped their shit".