
Is it possible to fall in love with a stranger, just by asking them 36 questions? Possible, yes. Advisable? Probably not.
If I had done what this woman did on her first date, there would never have been a second one with the man I have now been with for more than 15 years. We would never have made a home together. We would never have had two children.
If I had done what this woman did on her first date, we would never have made it past dessert.
Listen to Mamamia Out Loud unpack the list of questions that might be the shortcut to connection. Post continues below.
In 2015, the Internet was talking about a beautiful essay by Mandy Len Cantron, who writes about how, on the first official date with a man she vaguely knew, she asked the 36 questions that are guaranteed to indicate exactly how compatible two people are.
The questions are well-known in psychology circles as the subject of an experiment carried out in 1997. Psychologist Athur Aron and his team devised a list that could be scientifically proven to form a bond between two strangers in a laboratory setting.
It’s a list that predicts compatibility. It’s 36 questions that could make people fall in love. Or not…
Here’s a sample (the full list of questions is at the end of this post):
- Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?