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When Lauren Kekoa was 15 years old, her high school volleyball coach Rubin Bartlett, himself a former Olympian, began the careful, intentional, diabolical process of grooming her.
By the time she was in her final year of high school, he had isolated her, threatened her, manipulated her and cornered her into a sexual relationship.
Coach Bartlett had explained how things would go for Lauren if she told anyone. He told her that she'd be the one shamed by her teammates, friends and family.
He told her that no man would want to be with her after knowing that she was "damaged goods." He told her that he, on the other hand, would be fine, that he was untouchable — that she'd be the one to pay the price.
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Lauren believed him. Why wouldn't she? The world had shown her countless times that women pay the price of coming forward, of disclosing and seeking justice.
She'd seen very high-profile men accused of terrible crimes make it out the other side of the justice system — with the lives of their victims in tatters in their wake.