There are just 9 questions you need to ask yourself before getting engaged.

Much like choosing your next nail colour, getting hitched is a big deal. Dare we say, an even bigger deal? Maybe.

So before you dive into wedding Pinterest boards and cake tastings, it's worth hitting pause to ask yourself some important questions about commitment.

To help you figure out if you're truly ready to put a ring on it, we turned to relationship counsellors and experts for their top advice.

From joint finances to family values, here are the nine questions should ask yourself before saying "yes" to forever.

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Why am I getting engaged?

Before saying 'I do', it's important to evaluate your motivations for getting engaged. Is it because you're ready to commit, or because your parents are bugging you to settle down?

Relationship counsellor Amanda Lambros advises asking yourself: "Am I choosing to get engaged because I'm ready, not because I feel pressured?"

Societal or familial expectations can cloud judgement, so it's vital to ensure this step feels right for *you* and your timeline.

Similarly, relationship counsellor Dan Auerbach suggests reflecting on your internal motivations for putting a ring on it.

"Are you saying 'yes' because it feels right in your heart? Or is it about timelines, pressure, or fear of being alone?"

Can my partner and I communicate effectively?

It's no secret that open and honest conversations are *kinda* important when it comes to marriage. So making sure you and your partner have this down pat will help you down the track.

Counsellor Lambros emphasises how "effective communication is the bedrock of a strong relationship," especially when dealing with the ups and downs of life.

Indeed, open conversations are particularly important when it comes to the "tough stuff," Auerbach added — like boundaries, finances, and so on.

"Good communication is the secret sauce for lasting love," he told us.

How do my partner and I handle conflict? 

Of course, every couple faces disagreements. It's how you navigate them that matters.

Before getting engaged, Lambros suggests that you and your partner reflect on your conflict resolution styles and how they complement each other.

"Observing how each of you manages disagreements now can indicate how you'll handle challenges in marriage," she said.

Auerbach echoes this, while also highlighting the importance of fair fighting.

"When things get tricky, do you both fight fair? Or does one of you shut down, avoid issues, or get defensive?" the counsellor said.

All marriages will have their fair share of stressful moments, adds family lawyer and relationship coach Cassandra Kalpaxis. It's all about if you're "prepared to work on your marriage".

How will my partner's family factor into our lives?

Ahh, blended families. A risky business. You could gain a new best friend in your sister-in-law, or an enemy in your father-in-law. It's a scary gamble.

Either way, figuring out family dynamics before getting hitched is important, says Lambros.

Ask yourself, "How do I feel about my partner's family, and how do they feel about mine?" she said. "Families often play a big role in marriage, so consider the dynamics and if any concerns can be managed."  

Kalpaxis expands on this, posing the question, "How will our families be involved in our lives?"

Being clear about boundaries and expectations early can save you from future tension.  

How will we go about our finances?

Money, money, money.

Unsurprisingly, it's one of the top causes of marital stress. This makes financial compatibility a must.

Ahead of commiting, Lambros suggests asking: "Have we discussed finances and financial goals? Money is a common source of conflict, so discussing debt, savings, spending habits, and goals is wise."  

Figuring out "how to handle" your joint account is vital, adds relationship coach Kalpaxis.

Auerbach stresses the importance of teamwork and financial transparency.

"Have you discussed things like spending, saving, debt, and financial priorities as a team?" he asked.

Do I trust my partner?

It seems simple, but a lot of relationships don't work out due to a breach in trust, sometimes leading to infidelity.

Before getting engaged, Auerbach suggests asking yourself, "Do I trust my partner completely? Trust is everything. Are they someone whose words and actions consistently match up?"  

Kalpaxis also encourages couples to clarify boundaries when it comes to trust, as every couple is different.

"What does a breach of trust look like to you? What would you consider appropriate or not appropriate behavior? Defining trust and infidelity is crucial to maintaining a strong bond."  

Do we respect one another?

Beyond love, mutual respect is essential.

According to Auerbach, a simple question you can ask before heading down the aisle is, "Do I respect and admire my partner? Do they inspire me, and do I feel proud to be with them?"  

Meanwhile, Lambros emphasises the importance of feeling valued for who you are.

"Do you feel accepted for who you are — quirks, flaws, and all? Feeling content and happy with your partner in ordinary times is key."

If you don't genuinely enjoy spending time together, even in mundane moments, marriage may not be the right step.  

Do we share the same values?

Shared values can make or break a marriage. Kalpaxis encourages couples to discuss their core beliefs early on to see if they align.

"What are your values around children? What are your religious views on marriage? These foundational beliefs influence all other decisions that will underpin your marriage," she said.

Lambros similarly highlights the importance of being on the same page.

"Do we have compatible values and life goals? While you may not agree on everything, sharing core values and future aspirations is crucial."  

Are our life goals aligned?

Speaking of future aspirations, it's important that you and your partner have a shared vision for the future.

Lambros suggests envisioning your future together before saying 'I do'.

"How do I see our lives in five, 10, or 20 years? Do we support each other's personal growth?"  

Auerbach also recommends discussing non-negotiables.

"Have you talked about things like kids, where to live, and your career goals?" he said. "Do your visions for the future match up?"

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