'I felt guilty sleeping with married men, until I realised what was really happening.'

When I first started working as a full-service sex-worker three years ago, I was surprised to discover a big portion of my clients were married, and would even come into the bookings wearing their wedding ring.

Initially, I felt so guilty about the fact that men were cheating on their wives with me.

However, what the past few years have taught me is the reasons these husbands are booking me, and, as I've grown to understand more about their situation, I've realised they aren't doing anything wrong. 

I would say 40 to 50 per cent of my clients are married men. There have also been some occasions where men who I think are single turn out to be married, and they are just not telling me.

I recently found out that one of my clients, who has spent almost $45,000 on me, had been married the whole time he was seeing me. He's now going through a divorce. While a lot of people might judge me for this, they need to remember I'm not the one who spoke the vows — I'm just doing my job. 

From what I have learnt, the main reason married men cheat is due to a complete lack of sexual intimacy at home.

Honestly, if wives think they can not sleep with their husbands for years while being married, they are deluded if they believe he isn't having sexual intimacy with someone else.

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I've had men break down crying to me about cheating on their wives, and some men have never slept with anyone else, but they've been pushed to a breaking point because they haven't had sex in years.

I've even had men tell me they haven't had sex with their wife in ten years.

Another reason married men book me is to test out some kinks and fetishes that they are embarrassed about telling their spouses, or things their wives have refused to partake in. Things like pegging, BDSM or even farting in their face have all been requests I've received from married men, and they come to me because they want to fulfil their fantasy, and they just can't go their entire lives not experiencing that.

Sometimes, I can feel like a therapist to some of these men, and they just want someone to talk to. I have really noticed they are also seeking emotional intimacy, and when we are both naked in the bedroom, they find it really easy to open up to me.

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The sex kind of gets men to open up and talk about what's been going on with their wives, and to ask for advice. Sometimes I'm just there talking about how they should approach certain situations or what they should do.

A lot of my job is to make somebody feel comfortable, make them feel at ease, talk about their life, what's stressing them out. I think we may misunderstand men a little bit as a general population, and think that they just want to 'stick it in', but they actually do crave a connection of some sort, and want to be wanted and needed and seen.

I also personally believe that if a husband is going to cheat, it's better if he does it with a sex-worker anyway. I think wives should be appreciative of the fact that they visit me over having a full-blown emotional affair, or having random hook-ups with people.

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I think there are two different levels of cheating.

If you're flying out and falling in love with another woman and going on dates and holidays and everything, that's one thing, but I think seeing a sex worker is completely different.

Your husband could be doing so much worse. He could be going out, having unprotected sex and bringing that home and infecting you. At least if he is seeing escorts, you know they are being safe and using protection, and on an emotional level, the worker is just doing her job and viewing it that way.

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