
A year ago, my husband and I – together with our nine-year-old daughter – relocated from a farm following a great job opportunity that came my way. It was a huge move, and an agonising decision to move our daughter so far away from her friends and everything she knew, however just as I was going to pull out of the running for the role, my husband encouraged me to keep going.
We had been experiencing problems in our marriage for a long time. I hadn’t been happy living isolated on the farm; living in the country was my husband’s dream, not mine. He worked away Monday to Friday for our entire relationship, so I was very alone raising our baby single-handedly. I struggled to find a tribe and missed being surrounded by close friends as I had been in the city. I was lonely and bored for years. He never understood, and it made him angry that I wasn’t a natural farmer’s wife.
Long story short, we decided to make the move. We’d had financial stresses as building our dream home had gone way over budget and the farm was on the market anyway.
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