by TRACEY COX
Do you ever feel self-conscious in bed? Mamamia sexpert Tracey Cox may have some advice that you could help you…
Today’s Question: I’m seeing someone that I’m really attracted to, the sex is really great (best I have had) but there’s something holding me back. I’m not a very sexually confident person. I’m good at the ‘old fashioned’ things like hand jobs and I’m good at going down on him – great, actually! But when I get on top, I get all self-conscious. I worry I look weird from that angle and while I’m having sex. Also, I don’t think I’m very good at being in top generally. How can I become better at all this and really make him think that this is the best sex he’s ever had?
Tracey’s answer: Breathe. Honey, if you’re even half of what you say here – delivering hell head-jobs and heavenly hand-jobs and rating the sex you’re having as the best you’ve had – he’s already on cloud nine! Why aren’t you sexually confident? You say you’re good at the basics like hand-jobs and great at oral sex (not sure why you think they’re ‘old-fashioned’ – somehow I think they’ll always be in fashion!). The only thing I’m getting from your email is some trepidation during one particular sex position – you on top – which, I have to say is something a lot of females wrestle with.