Mismatched sex drives are nothing new. Anyone who’s ever been in a long-term relationship knows that between work stress and child-rearing, physical intimacy can fall through the cracks at times.
But one 28-year-old woman has penned a plea for help after her husband admitted he’s not only uninterested in sex, but finds it “ridiculous” and “rude.”
Writing anonymously on a Reddit thread, the distressed woman appeals for suggestions on why her husband might find sex so, well, icky — and what she can do to change it.
“He’s… complained of not being able to get out of his head or stop thinking during sex,” she begins, explaining that he works long hours.
She adds that he’s also confessed “that sex is just kind of strange to him” and that he recently asked her: “I mean, have you ever really thought about sex? It’s ridiculous. And kind of rude.”
She believes that “old-fashioned view of sex” stems from “being raised with WASP [White, Anglo-Saxon Protestant] values. “To him, sex is kind of ridiculous,” she explains. “He enjoys it very much, and finds me very attractive, but has a hard time separating from his ‘public demeanor’.”
Adding to her woes, her husband finds it difficult to give up control and be in the moment.
“It’s a very primal thing, and he has problems with things that take away his control,” she says.
The sex-deprived wife says she’s tried to spice things up in the bedroom by introducing some novelty.
“I do a lot of dirty talking in bed to keep him distracted with a scenario [and he] seems really satisfied with this,” she says, adding: “We have been having a lot more sex since I’ve been gaining weight, and he clearly finds me more attractive than less.
But nevertheless, she still hasn’t found a way out of her sex rut — and now she wants help.