'I'm a straight woman happily married to a gay man. We just welcomed a baby together.'

It's been a year since Jacob Hoff, who identifies as a gay man, stood opposite Samantha Wynn Greenstone and took her to be his lawfully wedded wife.

Now, the couple have welcomed their first child, a son weighing 3.6kg and 47cm.

Samantha and Jacob, who are in a mixed-orientation marriage, announced the news to PEOPLE.

"Our son made his appearance in November, just in time for us to celebrate our one-year wedding anniversary with the best gift ever," they said.

To protect his privacy, the new parents have only shared the back of their son's head and won't be publicly sharing his legal name. Instead, they are using a stage moniker: Baby Wynn Hoff.

"The inspiration behind the name is that Wynn is Samantha's middle name and Hoff is Jacob's last name," they said. "We combined the two to create our family name: Wynn Hoff. He's our little prince."

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As they adjust to parenthood, Samantha and Jacob have wasted no time introducing Baby Wynn Hoff to showtunes (their other love).

After all, it was musical theatre that brought the couple together in the first place.

In July 2025, Samantha and Jacob sat down with Mamamia to share how their relationship as a gay man and straight woman came to be.

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One interaction was all it took for Samantha and Jacob.

As Jacob waited for his turn to audition, it was quiet enough to hear a pin drop. The energy was tense. Anxious performers scrambled through scripts, whispering their lines and double-checking lyrics. The air was thick, but composed. Silent.

Then, from the audition room, came a loud and confident scream.

"People in the lobby started laughing; it cut through like a knife," Jacob told Mamamia.

"I remember being like, 'Whoa, somebody in there has some massive balls to be doing that when we're all on our best behaviour."

When the doors burst open, a bunch of performers filed out. Instantly, Jacob knew which one was responsible for the noise. A girl named Samantha.

"There was an energy about her that I was like, 'That little woman made that big noise'. And I turned to her and I said, 'If they don't give you that part, they're crazy.'"

As a gay man, Jacob didn't know that Samantha, a woman, would be the person he'd fall in love with and marry, or that they'd eventually welcome a child together.

At this point, she was just a talented colleague.

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As fate would have it, both Jacob, 31, and Samantha, 38, booked the theatre roles and had to stay in a resort for the duration of the production. A month later, in January 2016, rehearsals began. 

In their first break, Samantha escaped the chaos for some peace and quiet.

"I'm like, I'm getting away from this. I don't need to be socialising. And Jacob had the same idea," she told us.

"He saw me by myself in the lobby and noticed I was drinking very good water, and we got in a conversation about how important we think it is to drink quality water."

That one interaction was all it took.

And for the next four months, the US-based pair were inseparable.

"We did crazy things during that time. We went to a cult meeting to get free food three times. We could do anything and it would be fun together."

They would stay up talking until 4am, and still join each other for a hike that morning.

"At the end of the day, when we would be leaving to go to our respective villas, we'd be like, 'Why are we even leaving?' There were a couple of times where he slept over. We'd sleep in the same bed, but it was completely platonic," said Samantha.

After all, she knew Jacob was gay. And she was straight. They couldn't be involved romantically. But slowly, feelings started to creep in.

"We both had it sitting inside, but didn't quite know how to acknowledge it. There was a lot of fear in shifting the tides," said Jacob.

Jacob and Samantha in the early days. Image: Supplied

It wasn't until 18 months later that Samantha made the first move.

"I went to an energy healer, and she was asking me questions about my life," Samantha recalled.

"She said, 'Are you in a relationship with anyone?' And I said, 'I'm not, but I have this connection with my best friend that I cannot describe'. And she said, 'Where your hand is right now is where your stomach is, and it's where the umbilical cord attaches. What I'm picking up is that you guys share a spiritual umbilical cord.'

"Just hearing it phrased in that way was enough for me to be like, 'I've got to text Jacob and ask if he has feelings for me.'"

So that's exactly what Samantha did.

"I'd never done something like that before, but I just had this gut feeling that I needed to do it. I asked him if he ever felt more for me than just a friend.

"And he said… 'What do you mean?'"

It's not exactly a rom-com script, but Jacob had his reasons.

"I was scared. I was like, 'This is what I want and it is what I feel, but I'm scared that I'm not going to successfully be able to be in a relationship with her."

But two minutes after sending his reply to Samantha, Jacob realised it "wasn't a sufficient answer."

"So I said, 'I'm willing to try this; of course I feel more. You're more than a friend, and you're like nobody else in my life'."

They reunited a week later when Jacob visited Samantha for the opening night of her theatre show.

"There was fear in the back of my head, but then we came together as a couple and all of that doubt went away," said Jacob.

So, they started dating romantically. For a year, things were great. Then the doubt crept back in.

"So I said, 'I'm willing to try this; of course I feel more. " Image: Supplied

A real 'love match.'

The idea of a gay man and a straight woman being together forever seemed implausible; unrealistic.

So, the couple decided to seek out a therapist. And something amazing happened.

"We started telling her our story," Samantha recalled. "And she was like, 'I'm sorry, but I have to tell you that I am a straight woman and I am married to a woman. She's the only woman I've ever been attracted to, and meeting you guys is kind of blowing my mind right now, because I didn't realise that there were other people in this dynamic.'"

The technical term for the dynamic is 'mixed-orientation relationship,' where each spouse has a different sexual orientation.

"Once we had an example of this relationship existing, we realised this is just a variation of love that happens," Samantha said.

'Mixed-orientation relationships' often get confused with the concept of 'Lavender marriages', but this doesn't bother Samantha and Jacob.

"We're going to continue to say 'mixed-orientation', but maybe we also have to allow space for mixed-orientation relationships within the realm of lavender marriages," Jacob said.

"Yes, technically, a gay man married to a straight person would be a lavender marriage. But we want to make it very clear that we are a love match. We're not just in love because we're friend soul-mates; it's a romantic tie that is like any other hetero or homosexual relationship."

This goes for intimacy as well.

"We have sex. We're not weird or wild. We say it's like our two souls coming together. It's completely fulfilling to me," said Jacob.

Samantha added: "We hold hands in public, he'll put his arm around me if we're at the grocery store and we're just standing around in line. It's very traditional for the packaging being untraditional."

While Samantha's family is quite progressive, it took a while to open up to Jacob's parents.

Jacob and Samantha on their wedding day. Image: Instagram/@briarsatlas

"I was not out to my family yet, and I was very selective as to who I told about being gay, because there was a lot of fear of rejection. I was made fun of a lot," Jacob shared.

"My dad's family is very conservative. Growing up, my dad and I had confrontations. I would sit there and watch the Rocky Horror Picture Show over and over again, and he was suspicious. I never was interested in sports. I like musicals. He was like, 'Are you gay? What is going on?' And we would get in these fights."

Surprisingly, it was COVID that encouraged Jacob to confide in his family. 

"It was one of those sicknesses whereyou feel like you're on death's door. And I started having reflections about my life, and I thought, 'If I was to die, I would not want to die not telling my dad this'," Jacob explained.

"So I woke up the next day and called him and told him, and he was confused, but accepting. It immediately relinquished so much anger."

In November 2024, after seven years together, Jacob and Samantha got married in Florida, United States. The ceremony was intimate, with just 35 of their closest friends and family.

Jacob and Samantha got married in Florida. Instagram/@briarsatlas.

"It was truly magical. It was exactly what I feel like a wedding should be," said Samantha. "We made it about us. We had this moment where we were just sitting there and looking at all of these people in our lives who had never met before, but have shaped us so much, just getting along and loving each other."

Then, 10 months later, the couple announced that they were expecting their first child together.

"You might be wondering, 'How are they having a baby?'," Samantha said in a TikTok video with Jacob. "We did it the old-fashioned way, the birds and the bees. We still have an intimate relationship."

She continued: "That might be controversial to some of you. Our mixed orientations just came together as one. And we believe that when you're with your soulmate, love transcends.

"We are just so happy to be expanding our love by expanding our family."

For those who still don't quite understand their relationship, Jacob and Samantha have one message.

"When you find the right person, it doesn't matter what you come to the table with, it has a way of working itself out," Jacob said.

"Don't ignore the signs if it doesn't come in the box you were expecting, because it might just be right."

Samantha added: "Love is love, like everyone says. This is another incarnation of that."

You can follow Jacob and Samantha's story on TikTok here and here.

This article was originally published in July 2025 and has since been updated.

Feature Image: Getty.