“I’ve put hair conditioner in a used condom before so that if she sees it, she would think that I’ve actually had an orgasm. It’s not for fear of getting her pregnant. Just because I couldn’t finish.”
“I pulled out and moaned and spat on her back.”
These were just two of the stories out of several men who called into the ABC radio station Triple J yesterday to talk about faking orgasms. Yes, men.
We talk a lot about women faking orgasms – that reaching climax is more difficult; that there is little education around pleasuring a woman; that porn is more about male pleasure, than female enjoyment. And that all these factors conspire to make it easier for a woman to moan, groan, and not-actually-come, than it is to reach climax.
We don’t talk about men faking orgasms but, apparently, we should be. A 2010 study out of the University of Kansas in the US found 25 per cent of the 180 men surveyed reported faking orgasms.
Sex Therepist Patrick Lumbroso, who talked to Triple J yesterday, said it’s not “common” but it does happen.
But… how?
“There’s a lot in common between the way women fake orgasms, and men fake orgasms,” Lumbroso said. “The moaning, the crying out, all that stuff [is involved].”
“Often the guy is wearing a condom, so if he moans and screams and quickly pulls out and turns to the side and grabs a tissue, [it’s difficult to tell],” Lumbroso continued. “It’s like a slight of hand.”