
When my nan passed away, I heard the same words of comfort quite a lot.
"At least she lived a long life," people often said in a bid to comfort me.
I completely understood the sentiment. She was 87, so in the grand scheme of things, that is a long life compared to what some people get. And she had done some incredible things in those years.
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After surviving three strokes in her 30s and raising two children alone after her divorce, my nanna Olive spent more than 30 years volunteering at her church, then at her retirement village looking after people she called "the oldies", despite the fact most of them were younger than her.
As part of her volunteer work, she often sat with people who had no family in the last moments of their life so they weren't alone.
But when it came to her last moments, I felt completely blindsided.
I know that might sound silly, but even when your grandparent is elderly, slower and more fragile than they once were, they somehow feel indestructible.