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Lindsay was on a date when the girls at the next table handed her a note.

Lindsay was midway through a date when she got handed the note. It only had six words on it, but it was enough to make her question everything. 

She had already met twice with the man across from her — once over FaceTime, and once in person at a restaurant. This was date number three, and it was in his part of town.

"We were there for a while because of the football game, and were very, kind of, PDA-ish," Lindsay shared on TikTok.

"He was coming on strong, and very interested. We were sitting like pie-shaped, knees together."

Lindsay didn't notice the two girls watching the date until they approached her table.

"I went up to go to the bathroom. I come back and when I sit down, they get up to leave and one of the girls stops and grabs my hair and is like, 'Oh my god, your hair is so pretty. You're so beautiful. I just had to stop you.'"

Then, the girl pulled out a folded up note and passed it to Lindsay.

Watch: Two strangers handed Lindsay a note while she was on a date. Post continues after video.


Video via TikTok/@cuteascluck
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"[She said] 'I just wanted to give you this.'"

Momentarily stopped in her tracks, Lindsay was instantly on the receiving end of questions from her date.

"What is that?" he asked about the secret note.

"I don't know," she admitted.

Tentatively, Lindsay opened the note and immediately saw big, bold letters.

"JUST NO!"

Hastily folding the note back up before her date could read more, Lindsay shoved it in her purse.

"What is it?" the man tried again.

"Don't worry about it. There are a bunch of words, I'm just going to read it later," she responded.

The man dropped his questioning and conversation picked up where it left off. But the note was, unsurprisingly, still on Lindsay's mind.

After waiting a while, Lindsay excused herself to go to the bathroom. Here, she pulled the note out of her bag and opened it up again.

"You can do better," read the remaining four words.

Immediately, Lindsay's head started spinning.

"Did he do something when I went to go to the bathroom? Did he hit on them? Do they know him around town?"

The questions fought for dominance.

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There was, of course, the alternative answer — the girls simply thought Lindsay was out of her date's league.

"Were they just being like 'girls' girls'?" the TikToker posed to viewers. "They were younger. They looked mid-20s. [My date] was younger 50s, and I'm in my late 40s. Sometimes I think younger people don't realise that we're not all just like, perfection, the older we get.

"So, were they just being like, 'We think you're so pretty, you can do better'; were they just trying to be sweet; or did they see something?"

Lindsay then considered that, if the girls had seen something ominous, they would have been more specific in their note. Right?

Regardless of their intention, the six words consumed Lindsay's night.

"I just couldn't even concentrate the rest of the f--king date," she shared.

"This guy's coming on strong; he is very much [doing] what women want men to do, like 'I don't want to play games. I don't really want to date a bunch of girls. I would like to find one girl to date and figure out if that works or not. I really like you. I think you're attractive.'"

In other words, Lindsay saw nothing but green flags. Until this note.

"What are your thoughts? What's the over-under here? I need help," she appealed to viewers.

The video has since amassed more than 3,000 comments — and most reached the same conclusion.

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"We don't pass notes unless we are warning you," read one of the top comments.

"Girls don't do that for nothing. Trust your gut," added another.

"Girl, it means no. It also means the details were probably going to heavily offend you," suggested a third.

Others agreed with Lindsay's suspicion that the girls knew her date, or that he had done something while she was in the bathroom.

"I would never do this just because I thought someone was more attractive than their date. I feel like something 100 per cent had to have transpired," wrote one concerned viewer.

There were, however, some commenters who perceived the note differently.

"Just my guess, I think they were being sweet," wrote one. "I bet they thought you were way younger than him because I would have guessed you were in your 30s. And if it was something serious, I would have left details for you."

A second agreed, penning: "I feel their comments were just on physical aspects [of] him. If he did something they would've said 'while you were gone he…'"

"Not enough info," confirmed a third. "Use your judgement and try to get some actual insight into him. Best to do that for your safety anyway."

Galvanised by the comments, Lindsay asked her date about the note in a follow-up video.

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She decided to raise the subject after he texted her a string of drunk and incoherent messages resembling a "sales pitch" about why she shouldn't "miss out" on the opportunity to date him.

"He called me jaded," Lindsay said. "I didn't respond to a single one."

The next morning, the man apologised. And Lindsay finally asked about those six words that had been haunting her.

"What girl was it? I don't recall seeing anyone I knew, or you did," he responded.

Exasperated at how quickly he'd forgotten, Lindsay jogged his memory of the night.

"I didn't know her either," the man responded once he remembered the incident. "She must somehow know my ex or something. She just wrote 'don't date him?'"

Considering this a red flag, Lindsay decided not to respond.

While she intended to end things there, the TikTokker did receive a final message from the man.

"Well I blew it but know it's only out of me being excited about you," he wrote.

"That was what I meant was you were the first person that I was hoping to not just go on dates with. I really liked you and handled it like a f--king amateur. I'm sorry for that… be well."

"Just no" indeed.

Feature Image: TikTok/@cuteascluck

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