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'We had enough.' 6 women share why they removed someone from a group chat.

Whether it's to organise a birthday gift, or to complain about a younger sister to an older sister, most of us have left someone out of a group chat for some reason or another.

We're only human.

Even Kim Kardashian admitted to having a group chat called "Not Kourtney" where she and her other sisters moaned about Kourtney Kardashian.

Celebrities, they're just as petty as us!

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We decided to ask our Mamamia community to share the reasons (altruistic or otherwise) they decided to leave someone out of a group chat.

From salad crimes to an Irish Goodbye and narcissists, here's what they said.

6 women on the reason they left someone out of a group chat.

One woman left her partner's youngest sister out of a group chat as the family is estranged from her. But that didn't stop her mother-in-law from trying to add her back in.

"We had a group chat with my mother-in-law, my partner and his five siblings, all the partners and adult nieces and nephews, excluding my partner's youngest sister that none of us have anything to do with, because she is a complete narcissistic trouble-maker," the woman told Mamamia.

She went on to claim that her mother-in-law is "an enabler" and would constantly add her youngest daughter back into the group.

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"We would then all silence notifications and not engage," the woman said. "My brother would have a few reds and go in and remove her."

Things "came to a head" last Christmas when her mother-in-law tried to "guilt trip" the group "into being a loving family."

"We all collectively left the group chat at the same time, leaving the narcissist and enabler on their own. We've all never been happier."

A second woman said she left a friend out of a group chat due to her location.

Women on phones.We decided to ask our Mamamia community to share the reasons (altruistic or otherwise) they decided to leave someone out of a group chat. Image: Canva.

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"They are interstate and we often discuss local things we are doing," she said. "We don't want her to get FOMO."

Another woman had a group chat with three of her best friends of 30 years. But after one friend became distant and monopolised conversation, three of them decided to do an "Irish Goodbye" (when a person leaves a social gathering without saying goodbye to anyone) and start a separate chat without her.

"In the last five years, one of the friends in particular started ghosting us all, only interested in reading our life updates but never contributing off her own back or initiating the conversation," the woman told Mamamia.

"She also turned into being the main character in every conversation. The three of us had had enough! So we started a new group."

The three of them then waited to see how long it would take their fourth friend to realise the group chat had gone radio silent.

"It took three months! She even had the nerve to say 'I assume you've been speaking amongst yourselves' in her first message to us," the woman shared.

"To have a friend you have to be a friend, and she wasn't being one."

A fourth woman justified leaving someone out of the group chat as there is "always someone who everyone tolerates to avoid a WWIII eruption and fallout."

For another woman, an incident with a salad prompted her and three others to make a group chat without one particular friend.

"My husband and I have a very easy close relationship with another couple," she said. "Our kids are similar ages, conversations and banter flows."

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She continued: "We have another friend who is sadly widowed, and while we enjoy her company and invite her to Friday night drinks or Sunday BBQ, it's just not as easy with her."

The woman went on to say that this friend has some "strong and unusual opinions" and "can be a bit socially awkward."

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"The straw that broke the camel's back was when out for pizza one time she helped herself to some salad using her fingers," she said, adding that the person who ordered the salad did so to moderate his pizza intake.

"We now have a text group called 'Joey doesn't share food,'" she said, referring to a gag from the sitcom Friends.

A final woman had a group chat without her friend to help provide silent support during a turbulent time in her life.

"My friend's mum was diagnosed with a terminal condition, then she herself had a mental health crisis at the same time. We used that chat to rally help for her and her family," the woman shared.

"Her husband was able to just ask one of us and then we took it from there."

The group chat was also a way to receive health updates about their friend and her mum without her husband having to repeat the news multiple times.

"There were days where [our friend] couldn't be left unattended," the woman said. "We all had our own families too, so it was so helpful to be able to share the load between us all, and to also provide support to each other."

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