Jessica Rowe on the 11 things you should learn before you turn 50.

You'll never see journalist, TV presenter, and author, Jessica Rowe, grinning under a headline that reads "fabulous at 50" or "feisty at 50."

She refuses to fit into the cliched trope that tries to package women up into a neat little box. She spent too many decades doing that.

But since turning 50 in June this year, Rowe has realised she's shed all of those 'protective' layers she spent so many years building up. The ones that made sure she spent her 20s and 30s trying to be the perfect career woman, the perfect mum, the perfect partner and the perfect best friend.

She's not perfect, and more importantly, she no longer wants to be. But it's taken this long for her to truly, wholly, accept that.

Here's everything Jessica Rowe thinks you need to learn before you turn 50:

1. Ticking off 'goals' isn't real life.

As Rowe tells Mamamia, there comes a time when you realise that it's the "zig-zagging of life" that makes it worth living.

Fitting into the aforementioned boxes, and spending your life just ticking off the goals that society sets for you, is not only unrealistic, it's also unsustainable for any length of time.

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"I wasn't in touch with who I really was I because I thought I had to be perfect," Rowe tells Mamamia.

"I was very career-driven as a younger woman and had very particular goals in mind that I would work towards reaching. But of course, you discover over time that isn't real life. And I've had plenty of setbacks along the way.

"I've had to reinvent myself. I've had many different job titles. But what I've discovered is it's in that beautiful zigging and zagging that you do, that you really learn about what matters to you. You learn about the people that matter, and you learn about what it is that you truly want to do. And what matters is not how other people think of you, or what you 'should' be doing.

"Now as a 50-year-old I do what I want to do and there's an incredible freedom in that."

2. Let go of the expectation you have to 'jump up the career ladder'.

According to Rowe, the expectation you have when you're younger of spending your career 'jumping up the ladder' is complete nonsense.

"[The reality is] you kind of meander all over the place, and that's fantastic," she says. "Because that's, I think, where the true magic lies in that meandering," Rowe says.

"Why is [climbing the ladder] how we measure success? Because that's what has changed for me, is how I measure success. And for me success is what makes my heart sing. What brings me joy. Versus the traditional idea that to be successful you need to have reached a certain job title. That's crap. It's absolute crap, and life doesn't work out like that," she adds.

3. Be okay with making risky decisions.

One of the things Rowe has loved about getting older is the confidence she's gained in being able to make big, risky decisions her younger self would have balked at. Like leaving the best job she'd ever landed - co-hosting Studio 10 - in March 2019.

Watch: Jessica Rowe emotional resignation from Studio 10.

"I'm far more confident, because I know I'm gonna be okay," she said. "What's the worst thing that could happen? You change your mind? Or it doesn't work out? Well... you try something else!" she says.

"I wouldn't have made the decision [to leave Studio 10] 20 years ago. I wouldn't have had the confidence to make that decision. But I made that decision based on listening to my heart and listening to what mattered to me and my family.

"It's the best job I've ever had in television. But I got to a point after five years where I thought, I'm not happy anymore. And I have a choice here about being happy.

"As women, I think we have very good intuition. That's often a bit of a superpower of ours. But we don't play to it enough because we think we've got to be logical and rational. But I got to a point where I needed to make a change. And yes, change is scary. But I haven't looked back. I am far happier now."

4. Don't chase 'happiness', chase silver linings instead.

Especially in 2020, Rowe has taken away the unrealistic pressure of "being happy" as a daily or constant goal.

"Often we don't have a choice about what happens in our lives. But we do have a choice about how we decide to deal with it," she tells Mamamia.

"I don't think it's a matter of saying 'I'm going to be happy' and 'choosing to be happy' because that's not realistic. It's more, I think, about the silver linings, and also about contentment and that sense of saying 'I am enough.' I don't need this job title, or for my children to behave this way or that way to be happy... I'm actually enough the way I am."

She's also realised those 'silver linings' don't have to be anything huge or momentous either.

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"We've got this gorgeous new doggie called Daphne, and I love taking her for a walk around our block. And at the end of our street, there are these magpies in the tree. And I read recently that magpies can recognise 100 faces. And I wouldn't have in the past had the time to even read that, but now I go, 'Hi, magpies, do you recognise me?' And you see that brings me joy. So it's that. That sense of narrowing things as opposed to thinking it's got to be that 'big picture' that therefore makes you happy," Rowe says.

5. Things will unfold. They really do.

When Rowe was 30 years old she was single and miserable, thinking she was 'failing' at life because she wasn't engaged or having a baby like she thought she was supposed to be doing at that age. She didn't even have a boyfriend.

"But then a few years later, I met Petee [Channel Nine journalist Peter Overton], and we got married, and had a family and you know, all those sorts of things do unfold when they're meant to," she says.

"I used to hate it when people would say that to me when I was sick of waiting for it to unfold. But it does unfold. It really does. And that's why these arbitrary ages of when things are supposed to happen aren't true and it truly doesn't matter."