In a world obsessed with the thin ideal, this topic gets thrown my way often.
I own a plus-size lingerie boutique in San Jose, CA and have a pretty amazing online community and local following. It seems that often, the common thought is that we are all just waiting to become skinny to really be happy.
I mean, how can you be FAT and HAPPY? We all want to be a size 00, right? I mean, like really deep down inside we are all just waiting for that magic pill to take us to skinny-land so we can start living our lives, right?
WRONG!
I am fat and I am ridiculously happy. That may just be my personality.
My career does involve coaching plus size women to seize the day and embrace their curves. I coach them to be fat and proud; to celebrate the pleasure their fat bodies are capable of — so maybe that makes me happy. I do not have the proverbial “skinny girl” inside me just dying to escape. I think that is such sad and tired cliché. It’s a boring stereotype that needs to die a quick death.
It’s assumed that all of us plus-size people are sad, desperate and lonely but I am here to tell you, that is so far from true. I personally know thousands of fat men and women and am in touch with over 167,000+ fat people on a daily basis thanks to my social media community and I can tell you that we are living our lives. LIVING OUT LOUD! We are dating and married. We are single, queer, poly, straight, married, gay and having lots and lots of amazingly connected and intimate relationships and lots of hot sex.