What is the first thing you think about when someone mentions anal sex? Is it untold pleasure? Is it sensuous closeness? Is it discovering unknown intimacy? Could it even be the best orgasms you can have?
Probably not.
If you’ve never tried it, you’ve probably been told it is going to hurt. If you’ve seen it in porn, you probably think an insane acrobatic session is about to unfold. And, if you’re like most people, you probably think it's an actual pain in the butt.
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And this is fair enough. I’ve never been one to sugar-coat the fact that anal sex might hurt and we all need to know that. Yet, let’s remember that, despite common thoughts and porn’s obsession with stretching ass limits, there is unlimited potential with ass play. The fact that it might hurt doesn’t mean that it will – or that it has to.
Pain-free anal sex is not a fantastical oxymoron. It is not a fairy tale (tail?). It is real, and it is awesome.
Check out these seven tips for having anal sex that doesn’t hurt and get down to the bottom of bottom fun.
The best tips for a pain-free anal sex.
Experiment with self-pleasure.
There is only one person who can determine if your anal experience is going to be pain free: you.