When someone decides to leave a relationship there’s a very real possibility they may never again see the person who was once the centre of their Universe. For some that might be exactly as it should be.
But if you’ve been blessed to have children together and your once significant other is not unfit to share in their upbringing, and they want to, then you’ve still got a long road of “together” ahead.
Here are some key ways that have helped ease my pain and confusion on a path that I did not think I’d be walking when my ex and I first thought about having children together. If you have also decided to separate and co-parent I hope these bring you a lighter heart too:
1) Set the intention to have a compassionate and supportive co-parenting relationship.
Believe it or not, the person that was once your “everything” does not have to suddenly become the enemy. In the end it doesn’t matter who decides they can’t stay in a relationship ~ make the decision that if you can’t be great together, then you’re going to commit to being the best co-parent you can be.
2) Remember the qualities that you admired about your ex as a parent, when you were both still feeling the bliss. Of course there are going to be times when you both simply can’t stand the sight of each other, but just because someone’s no longer your partner doesn’t mean they’re not a great parent. Try to keep their best qualities at the forefront of your mind and remember that you’re in this together.