How did this happen?
By: Kim Becking for DivorcedMoms.com
Around this time four years ago, I was having a champagne toast with my girlfriends. We were toasting new beginnings – the official end of my divorce (divorce decree in hand) and the start of my new journey. My divorce process took a year, and what a LONG year it was! Then there was the next phase which took another seven months (a relocation trial so my son and I could move a few hours away). After a short visit to court with the judge and my wasband, I was officially divorced.
My friends wanted to celebrate. I wanted to celebrate. I felt closure and peace. But at the same time, I was also so scared, wondering where it all went wrong and how I could move on. I never dreamed I would be one of those statistics. This was not the life I had planned when I said, ‘I do’ all of those years ago.
How did this happen? How could my ex-friend and wasband ride off into the sunset, leaving me confused, angry and alone. I could sit there, feel sorry for myself and continue to ask questions that had no answers, or I could reinvent myself and create a new life – one that I may have never envisioned, but one that could be awesome if I would just let it.
On that day, as my friends raised their glasses to toast new beginnings, I knew, deep inside, that I had to let go, face my own fears and insecurity and move on. It was time to find my happy.
I re-read what I wrote on this day four years ago.