'G Flip and Chrishell shared a picture from their wedding day. It instantly brought me to tears.'

When you come out as queer, so many things happen. 

Firstly, you gain so much. You find people who love you for who are, you learn about yourself in ways you never could, and doors open for you that have never been open before. It’s hard to articulate how incredibly liberating and fulfilling it can be to come out to yourself and to the world around you.

Though, in the same breath, there are some doors that you wished would never open. The ones of hate and bigotry. The ones that bring with it the acute awareness of your very own safety, because your safety truly changes when you are publicly queer. 

I often think my beautiful, straight friends and family – as open and accepting as they are – don’t understand the amount of hate and prejudice that still exists for me and my kin. In fact, I know they don’t because I hid among them for 27 years before I came out publicly. 

But, it is there. It confronts me every day and sometimes I cry to my fiancée about it, because I yearn for justice and fairness for all, and I can’t ever wrap my head around how cruel this world can be to people sometimes. 

All of this, and more, is why I cried (more like, sobbed) for an hour after first listening to G Flip’s new song, ‘Be Your Man,’ and while watching Chrishell’s reel, announcing her marriage to G. 

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My own visceral reaction surprised me to my core. 

I’ve never been this type of person. I’ve never been a Swiftie or a One Direction stan. I’ve never cried seeing my favourite artist do anything.

For me, this is different.

It’s a reprieve from a fight we’re forced into for being queer. 

They are not just two people who are famous 'making it official'. They are two people who I hardly ever get to see represented in Hollywood who chose to show their love to the world, and in turn, they made it just that little bit easier for me and all the other queer women and non-binary people in the world. It means so much to me I still can’t contain it. 

These damn tears keep sneaking their way to the front of my eye each time I think about it.

I feel a particular connection to Chrishell. I remember in March 2022, when the queer internet sleuths started picking up on Chrishell’s walk into queer territory, and by April 2022, everyone in the queer world knew of her budding connection with G Flip. 

Watching a woman burdened by expectations because of her previous straight-presenting relationships caused an unfamiliar sensation of solidarity. Was I watching a glitzier, more expensive version of my own past play out before me? 

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From there, I continued to watch G Flip and Chrishell’s love story and somehow I became a real, ‘will probably join some sort of fan club’ kind of fan of the couple. 

And here I am now, on the day G Flip released their new love song and I found out they got married, and I feel proud and full and incredibly happy – and I’m literally writing an article about how happy I am about it.

The lyric, “I’m not what you planned” of G Flip's song permeates my mind. It echoes around me as I sit here, with flashbacks of my younger self planning my future in a way that I was told was right but didn’t quite fit. 

The mash-up of moments Chrishell posted with G Flip continue to repeat over and over – their smiles, their pure love, their joy. It reminds me so much of my deep, incredible love for my fiancée, Sarah. The love that is pure despite what some may say. The love I didn’t plan, but which found me anyway.

Congratulations Chrishell and G Flip, we love you. 

Image: Supplied + Mamamia.