I've always been someone who deeply values time spent with friends. Give me a catch-up over brunch, wine or a cheeky dessert any day and I'm happy.
I love hearing about their lives, chatting about the world or just trading silly gossip. I come away feeling refreshed — quality time is my love language, okay?
But here's the thing I only recently realised: I've fallen into what's known as the "catch-up trap". And if you're anything like me, chances are you have too.
I never really thought about what we do during our catch-ups. Just seeing my friends' faces felt like enough.
But over time, I noticed so many of my friendships had become a cycle of coffee dates or dinner catch-ups where we simply update each other on our lives. It's comforting, but also a little... repetitive.
Comedian Tanya Hennessy described the catch-up trap perfectly in a column earlier this year. You sit down, order your coffee, and then tick off the life admin: work (busy!), dating (ugh!), family (drama!).
The problem? We're not really making new memories. We're just keeping each other in the loop.
Watch: Grace Beverley talk about catch-up friendships. Post continues below.
It's not that these conversations are bad. Every friendship serves its purpose, and not every connection needs to be deep.