
The lighthouse beam sweeps across my windshield, matching the rhythm of waves crashing below. I've chosen this spot carefully — 90 minutes from home, location services disabled on my phone, cash withdrawn so my credit cards won't give me away. My husband thinks I'm at a conference in another city.
At 44, I've become the kind of woman who runs away from her own life.
From the outside, my marriage looked perfect. Twenty years, two teenage sons, a successful career, a beautiful home, regular adventures travelling the world. I'd ticked all the 'good girl' boxes: loving wife, devoted mother, high achiever. But underneath that carefully curated facade, I was drowning.
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Every day had become an exercise in emotional acrobatics. Would this be a moment of tenderness or tension? Would my request for time alone be met with understanding or accusations? My shoulders lived in a permanent guard position, a knot sat constantly in my chest, my body keeping score of every compromise, every swallowed truth.
I knew if I'd asked for space, there would have been days of arguments about how selfish I was being, accusations about my ingratitude, and silent treatment until I relented. The fact that I — someone who had never lied or snuck around — felt safer running away than asking for what I needed was the wake-up call I couldn't ignore.