We’re in the midst of a historic revolution about previously silenced and secret sexual misconduct. It’s an exciting time for all women, because it’s a giant leap forward for a world of true gender equality.
Amongst all the ruined careers, and vindicated victims, are families. In particular, fathers who’ve been exposed, but are raising young women themselves.
So how does a woman, who is the daughter of serial womaniser – a man who used his wealth and power to conduct numerous extra-marital affairs – feel about her father’s behaviour? How does she reconcile the father that she loves with the man that he is?
The adult daughter of such a man – a successful businessman with a high-profile – explained to Mamamia how she navigates her relationship with her dad:
“I first worked out my dad had an unconventional approach to women when I was about ten. I suddenly noticed that he’d become really charming, always cracking jokes and very smooth, when he was around young women. He wasn’t like that at all with my mum.
But I didn’t think there was anything wrong with it. Dad was a funny guy who liked to have a good time, and that’s one of the reasons I loved him. Mum was really conservative and so I guess I thought that Dad was allowed to enjoy himself in the company of others. Of course, as an adult now, I see how that would have made Mum feel. And I feel really guilty about it.
I look back now and know there were many times that I was used as an excuse for dad to escape the house to meet a woman. Dad was really interested in property, so he’d tell mum that we were going to “look at a house.” We’d arrive, and I’d spend an hour or so waiting for him in the car, while he went inside to ‘inspect’ it. If I asked to come in with him, he’d get annoyed. I spent so many hours of my childhood doing that, bored out of my mind, like a puppy in a car, just waiting for its owner to return. Then we’d go to a restaurant and we’d have a great time eating and laughing, and then go home.