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Bronnwyn O'Gorman died alone aged 50. She's among the forgotten victims of violence.

Bronnwyn O'Gorman would "light up the room with her loudness".

She was someone who "loved hard and lived hard".

But that life was taken away from her earlier this year when she was allegedly killed by a man known to her.

Mamamia understands her partner was allegedly behind the wheel of a car that struck Bronnwyn in Chidlow, 45km east of Perth, on April 7.

She suffered critical injuries and died in hospital on May 10. The 60-year-old alleged driver was charged with manslaughter.

Bronnwyn is not the "picture perfect" victim whose face will make the front pages of newspapers. Instead, she's one of the many who fall through the cracks, forgotten and not mourned.

Bronnywyn lived a difficult life. Her brother died in 2012 and she lost her parents soon after. She struggled with addiction and was estranged from her extended family on the East Coast.

Her final days in hospital were spent in a coma, alone.

The public trustee oversaw the requirements after her passing.

An old friend stepped in to organise a private funeral service after hearing about Bronnwyn's death on a social media post. But finding out what happened to her was no easy task.

Had she not intervened, Bronnwyn's body would have been unclaimed and been buried in a common grave.

"People fall off the map when this happens and it's not okay," the friend told Mamamia.

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A smiling woman in a beanie lies on the grass next to her dog.Bronnwyn O'Gorman.

"She deserves better".

Bronnwyn was "one of the kindest people", her friend said.

"She had a real warmth to her. She was someone who laughed with you.

"She was always there for me."

As a teenager, Bronnywn's happy place was on the West Australian coastline, watching the sunset over the ocean.

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The 50-year-old struggled with addiction and family hardship over the years.

Her friend, who spent much of her childhood best friends with Bronnwyn, said Bronnywyn was someone she grew to love from afar.

Another family friend, who was close with Bronnwyn's parents, said the Bronnwyn she knew was "bold and extroverted".

"You heard her before you saw her," they told Mamamia.

"She was a hard worker and popular with people."

After her parents died, Bronnwyn was "essentially alone".

"She was very much loved in her family," the family friend said.

"Like a lot of people, she had her demons. She deserves better than her end.

Bronnwyn's ashes have been placed with her brother.

She was the 74th woman killed by violence this year, according to Sherele Moody's Australian Femicide Watch.

Watch: You Can't Ask That: Domestic and family violence survivors answer why didn't you just leave. Post continues below.


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Each victim matters.

When women are killed, Australians rely on authorities to confirm their deaths, especially when their lives are stolen as a result of violence.

But when authorities don't share that information and the media doesn't report it, how can these women be remembered?

Femicide researcher and journalist Sherele Moody makes this point with her project Australian Femicide Watch, which tracks every known Australian woman and child killed as a result of murder, manslaughter or neglect.

"How can we possibly mourn these women if we do not know about them," Sherele wrote on her Australian Femicide Watch page.

"How can we document their deaths? How can we keep their memories in the public sphere? How can we march for them if we do not know they were killed? How can we hope to change the story if authorities never give us the information we need?"

Speaking to Mamamia, Sherele said the inconsistency from police across the country announcing when women have been killed does not give a good idea of the actual rate of deaths.

Sherele has been researching femicide for almost a decade and says more communication is needed about women killed in other contexts, not just family and domestic violence.

"Most of the women I've documented over the nine or 10 years have been killed by someone they knew, not necessarily a partner or a family member," Sherele told Mamamia.

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"If you're erasing the people who are killed by people they know, you're losing this really important information that shows that the drivers and factors behind their deaths are similar to the ones involving family and domestic violence.

"If authorities are not communicating every death then we're not getting the full picture. We can't have a look at the circumstances of those deaths, we can't go well who else is at risk here, what are the patterns, how can we save another 20 per cent of women's lives?"

There needs to be more conversations about women who have been killed, Sherele said.

"We're leaving families out in the cold and we're not giving those families the opportunity for their person to be mourned in a way that other victims are mourned," she said.

"There's no way that Bronnwyn was ever going to make the media. She's not the kind of victim you're going to see on the front page or the top half of a major media outlets website."

People are learning about them off social media accounts like mine and the reach is not that great, so we're not giving women the space that they should be getting in the media.

"We're not giving them that importance" — and every victim matters.

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