By BERN MORLEY
Just stop what you are doing for a minute and imagine this. You’re 26. You’re happily married. You have a job you love and a fantastic bunch of friends. In fact, life is freakishly good. So good, you and your partner have finally decided to start the family you have both been longing for. Now imagine, regardless of this, life has other plans for you.
This is exactly where Tara D’Souza found herself just over 3 years ago, when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. Suddenly she wasn’t only faced with her own mortality, she also had to confront the possibility that her choice to have children may very well be about to be taken away from her, after finding a hard, almond shaped lump in her right breast.
With no prior family history of cancer, Tara initially found herself at a loss to understand. To understand what came next. Why it had happened to her. Why had cancer singled her out. She soon understood though, with the help of the Cancer Council, she wasn’t being singled out.
Tara’s first instinct was to look to the future and knowing that the temporary menopause as a result of chemo may become permanent, she decided to go through IVF as a precaution. Even though at times she says that “she could not even find the strength to fill out the Medicare forms”, she was determined to be a cancer survivor – not a cancer victim. Even though Tara knew she was considered young and “low-risk” she was going to go with her instinct and fertilized embryos and froze them. It was the one process that pointed her towards a future. And hope.