Okay guys, serious question: who wants better sex?
I'm going to go ahead and assume everybody put their hand up just now, because... well, because who would honestly say no to that offer?
Even if you're already having a swell time between the sheets (or anywhere else you like to get frisky, I'm not judging), the option to make it even better is always a good thing – which is exactly why I spoke to astrologer and author Hollie Azzopardi about how we can use the stars to guide us towards our best sex ever.
And the insights are so juicy you're going to want to grab something to fan yourself with before you start scrolling.
To find out more about how we like to get down, Hollie told me, we look not to our usual star sign (aka our sun sign), but to where Mars was hanging in the sky when we were born.
"Mars is the planet that rules forward momentum, force and, for lack of a better term, penetration. So if we're looking at someone's sex drive, we are looking at their Mars placement," Hollie explained.
"Mars rules how you personally relate to those things – to forward momentum, action, will, and sex drive."
Finding out your Mars placement is easy (if you've checked out your Moon Sign already, you're 90 per cent of the way there). Just jump on astro.com or use the Co-Star app, bang in your birth date, place and time, and you'll pull up your natal chart. Look for 'Mars' in the table and check the corresponding sign, and there you have it.
Okay, go get that right now – I'll wait.
Sorted? Good. Let's dive in.
Mars in Aries
"If your Mars is in Aries, you are naturally sexual by nature. You likely have a strong, healthy libido and you are someone who would like to initiate sex. You aren't someone to shy away from sex at all – in fact, it's something that probably brings you life-force energy. You’re someone who really enjoys sex for sex’s sake. Take charge, take control, and don't wrong yourself for your strong libido. Enjoy the energy that your strong libido gives you, and bring that energised nature into your conquest. This is not the placement for vanilla sex, either. Be adventurous. enjoy it, take your time with it and really enjoy not just the sex but also the lead up."
Mars in Taurus
"You’re a very sensual lover, so allow yourself to pull out all stops. Put on your sex playlist, light some beautiful candles, put your most beautiful sheets on the bed – for the best sex ever for someone with their Mars in Taura, we're looking at all of the sensual aspects. Think: you’ve just had a beautiful meal, some beautiful wine, and then you’re luxuriating in the sensuality of intimacy with someone else. It's every sense being played with. That could be sensual massage, it could be feeding your lover chocolate-dipped strawberries, having some old-school R&B playing in the background… It's a whole elaborate sensory overload of an experience when your Mars is in it is in Taurus."
Mars in Gemini
"Mars in Gemini would really get off on, I don't want to say dirty talk, but intellectual and witty, stimulating, titillating conversation. Any kind of foreplay that incorporates wordplay would likely turn a Mars in Gemini on, even some sexy texting in the lead-up! You are also someone who really desires to keep things fresh, so I would say a Mars in Gemini placement may even lend itself to having sex in different environments every time, trying new things, maybe incorporating something like a blindfold. They would be the last sign that would want the same old vanilla monotonous sex routine. Having an open-minded lover would be really beautiful for Mars in Gemini – someone to keep you on your toes, surprise you and keep you guessing."
Mars in Cancer
"Mars in Cancer would love a soft, slow build. This is a sign that loves their soul to feel very safe during sex. They want to be romanced, they want to be loved – so the best sex ever for a Mars in Cancer could be watching The Notebook and then reenacting the most romantic scenes. Going out in a rowboat in the pouring rain, running in and making love on the floor of their home is so Mars and cancer! It's romantic, it's intimate, it's sensual. Think long make-out sessions, lots of kissing, very gentle touch, and an emotional connection are likely things that would lead to your best sex as well. It’s all about feeling a connection with someone else."
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Mars in Leo
"You love a bit of spice in the bedroom, Mars in Leo. You would be all about the role play, bringing out the costumes and having a little bit of frisky fun. It's a performance and you are the star of the show – and you’ll take the standing ovation at the end, too! Throw in a bit of soft kink as well. Sex for people with Mars in Leo would not just be a performance if they're feeling comfortable enough to go down that path – Leo also rules the heart. So for Mars in Leo, sex would always be very heart-opening, intimate experience and you are an adoring lover."
Mars in Virgo
"Mars in Virgo likes a bit of a routine! And there’s nothing wrong with that. It sounds so dry, but it's not at all – it’s just that there's a nice rhythm to it. You know what you enjoy and you're not afraid to ask for it, either, and that’s beautiful. I would also say, with Mars in Virgo, you get a lot of pleasure in serving the other person. You want to know what your partner wants, what they desire, and you get off on the experience of fulfilling those desires. I would also say you love a really fresh and clean space. We're likely not going to get in the mood when there's mess around! To have your best sex ever, start with a long bath or a shower together (shower sex is your jam), before taking things into the (clean!) bedroom."
Mars in Libra
"Very much like Taurus, Mars in Libra is a lover, and it's all about the sensual experiences. You are sexually liberated, witty and flirty, and you love bringing a bit of sexy banter into your intimacy. Again like Taurus, you’re also ruled by Venus, so you would absolutely want those sensory experiences – candles, beautiful rich scents, mood music... But as much as you like charisma and chat, it needs to be clever and witty to turn you on. The undercurrent for a Mars in Libra is using your words as foreplay."
Mars in Scorpio
"If you have your Mars in Scorpio, you are here for intimacy. You are unafraid to go to the deepest depths with someone and really meet them in their deepest, darkest fantasies. You’re not ashamed to own what your desires are, either – you'd have a really experiential time, you wouldn't be afraid to try anything. You'd be up for anything, so why not give kink a go? There's nothing off the cards for this placement. You’re open-minded. Just own it. Don’t wrong yourself for your sexual curiosities, and seek out spaces where you're able to explore the depths of your sexuality. You are a sexual being, so allow yourself to explore that, right down to things like threesomes or swingers’ parties. Explore the full spectrum of a sexual experience."
Mars in Sagittarius
"You’re fiery, passionate and adventurous – and you probably like to have sex in spontaneous locations. Holiday sex would be the best ever for you! For you, having amazing sex is about changing up the environment, and it’s also a very hands-on experience – things like massage, but it's more than that. It’s going to Sexpo and buying the Candy G-string and having your partner eat it off your body. Mars in Sag is up for a really fun enjoyable and good time when it comes to sex, but also very passionate and hot and heavy when you're with someone that you really enjoy being with. For Mars in Sag to have the best sex ever, allow your adventurous and playful side to come out. Sex outside would probably be very enjoyable!"
Mars in Capricorn
"Sex on a bed of hundred-dollar bills, baby! No, I’m joking, but honestly, for a Mars in Capricorn, the best sex ever would involve no expense spared. Think the best bottle of wine at dinner beforehand, a beautiful like beautiful night of passion in the penthouse suite of a hotel, or some sort of really luxe setting. Everything fancy will get you off, from wearing your best beautiful clothes and your sexy designer lingerie to the beautiful extravagant setting and lead up – it’s that rich, lush energy. Mars in Capricorn also likes to take the lead. You like to be in control in the bedroom; you’re the one calling the shots."
Mars in Pisces
"You are the tantric lover. You want to sit and eye gaze for hours, you want to meditate with your partners and have a deep, tantric experience. Like Mars in Pisces, you want to be transcended through sex. It’s all about that spiritual connection as much as a physical connection. It's about that romantic enmeshment of two souls becoming one, so exploring something like Tantra or even simply eye gazing with your lover before you are intimate with them will really get a Mars in Pisces going."
Mars in Aquarius
"Quirky, kinky, playful sex is what Mars in Aquarius is all about. You would be the most open-minded when it comes to intimacy, and open to sexual exploration. You also love to keep your partners guessing. If you're a Mars in Aquarius and you want to have the best sex ever, that’s going to mean not limiting yourself to one style or flavour of sex or intimacy. It's allowing yourself to be open to the full spectrum; to pick and choose what it is you like and desire in each moment, because that will also be ever-changing. Be open to having a constantly changing sexual appetite and embrace it."
Hollie Azzopardi is an astrologer, an intuitive, a mentor, mother and author. Visit her website or check out her Instagram for astrological insights and heart-led insights.
Alix Nicholson is Mamamia's Managing Editor. Want to catch more of her adventures in travel, beauty and lifestyle? Head on over to her Instagram.
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