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Alison Holker shared intimate details of her husband tWitch's death. Then his family weighed in.

Just over two years after the death of her husband, Stephen Boss — better known as DJ tWitch — Allison Holker is opening up about her loss. And his loved ones aren't happy about it.

In a new interview with PEOPLE, Holker spoke about the days directly after Boss' death, which was ruled a suicide, claiming she found shoeboxes full of drugs in her late husband's wardrobe. She also shared the contents of some of his journal entries, which alluded to Boss having experienced sexual assault in childhood.

The interview comes ahead of the release of Holker's memoir, This Far, which covers her career, her relationship with Boss, and her healing journey.

But rather than readers rushing out to pre-order the book, many condemned Holker's project — most notably Boss' loved ones, who accused the widow of exploiting the DJ's death for financial gain, and lying about his struggles with addiction.

Watch: Saying goodbye to tWitch. Post continues after video.


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Courtney Ann Platt, who appeared with Boss on season seven of So You Think You Can Dance, criticised Holker for what she called a "tacky, classless, opportunistic act".

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"I haven't said a word in two years but here I go," she began her statement on Instagram. "I was there the moment you both connected, I was there the day you got engaged, I stood by your side on your wedding day, I was in your home the day he died. I was by your side because your husband was my family. It didn't matter how often we spoke, how often we saw each other. We were bonded IVever.

"This is by far the most tacky, classless, opportunistic act I have ever seen in my entire life," Platt continued, adding that Boss' friends and family allegedly had to sign an NDA at his funeral which banned them from badmouthing the DJ.

"Even his own mother who you've treated like garbage this entire time," she claimed.

"And here you go and write a book with all the dirty laundry smearing his name and attempting to dim the bright loyal, loving, light that was your husband, my friend.

"This is how you protect the 'Boss name' you so quickly dropped on your social media platforms 48 hours after he passed? His legacy? This is how you protect his children from any further humiliation, hurt and despair? This is what you want them to remember about him?" she asked.

The 36-year-old then accused Holker of being exposure hungry, and suggested she "get a journal, a therapist, a friend".

"This smear campaign for a buck is absolutely not what he would have ever wanted. No matter how bad he was hurting. Not for second. You're a living, breathing bulldozer. Stick to your own demons. Shame on you Allison, shame on your money hungry team. Let my friend Rest in Peace not your PR," Pratt finished her statement.

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Her words garnered attention from Boss' family members, including his brother Dré Rose — who has previously spoken about the alleged NDA.

Rose shared Platt's message to his Instagram stories with the caption "No lies told".

Boss' cousin, known by the name Elle, also responded to Holker's interview in a string of tweets posted to X, accusing the widow of lying about his addiction struggles.

"He wasn't an addict. He smoked weed and was actively trying to quit. He wasn't some junkie," she wrote.

"I'm so tired of keeping my f-king mouth shut, bro. You did our family so mf dirty," Elle added, alleging that Holker doesn't allow Boss and her three children to meet other members of the family.

She went on to describe Holker as "crazy" and accused her of attempting to "tarnish" her cousin's legacy.

The backlash didn't stop there as more people came forward to criticise the mother-of-three, including her former manager, Nelson Diaz — who worked with Holker for over a decade.

In his statement, posted to Instagram stories, Nelson claimed he endured "disrespect" and "evil stuff" from Holker, adding that he regrets not ending their professional relationship sooner.

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"Even hiring you as a judge on a show on Bravo I helped build… should have let them fire you when you showed your true colors on set and held us up because you could barely speak," he wrote.

"Don't act holier than thou with the demons and skeletons you have … your house is made of glass. I don't have to say a thing, others are coming for you now not me… if you are truly healed then share your TRUE SELF and [don't] monetize Stephen."

Another of Boss' friends, filmmaker and choreographer Emmanuel Hurd — who went viral on The Ellen Degeneres Show where the DJ worked — released his own statement, accusing Holker of lying about Boss' addiction struggles.

"He was 'ABSOLUTELY' NO ADDICT!! You will say and do ANYTHING for a dollar!!" he wrote.

The DJ's fellow So You Think You Can Dance contestant Comfort Fedoke also questioned Holker's motivation for the venture.

"Awareness or attention?" she asked on Instagram. "Stephen isn't here to defend himself, yet his name continues to be dragged through the mud. Love doesn't look like this, but manipulation and marketing for personal gain does.

"For too long I've stayed silent, even as I've watched this all unfold. Signing NDAs under the guise of 'protecting his name' only enabled you to twist the narrative. But now, enough is enough."

Finally, Real Housewives of Potomac star Candiace Dillard Bassett shared her thoughts on X, writing: "I'm not even gonna say it. But this white woman is doing everything BUT protecting her Black children and her Black husband's legacy. She could've kept this in her therapist's office. SMH."

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But it was fellow dancer Kelly Gibson's comment that garnered a response from Holker. When she accused the 36-year-old of "disgracing" Boss' name for a "paycheck" in her Instagram comments, Holker replied: "I'll always love you. Just trying to help people feel safe to ask for help and support."

The widow then re-posted several supportive Instagram DMs — one of which called her "brave" — before releasing an official statement on Thursday.

"To fans of Stephen and our family and friends, I want to be clear that my only intention in writing the book is to share my own story as well as part of my life with Stephen to help other people. Just like you, I never really knew what happened, and even as I am trying to put the pieces together I will never really know," Holker wrote.

"If you decide to read the book, hopefully you'll see my intention is to celebrate the love and life I shared with Stephen and our three beautiful children, and also the more complex aspects of both of our lives. I hope that by sharing our full story maybe I can help someone else who might see themselves or a loved one in Stephen."

By sharing, the mother-of-three said she hoped others may be able to catch the red flags that she missed, adding that she has educated herself in mental health issues since her husband's death.

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Holker also said that all the proceeds from her memoir will be donated to charity.

"All of my proceeds from this book are going to fund the mental health focused foundation I started in Stephen's honor," she wrote. "Move with Kindness. My hope is that we don't need to lose another husband, brother, father, or friend to suicide. I believe that if Stephen were able to choose, he would choose to have his story told if it meant saving even one life.

"Much love to all those who have supported our family these many years," Holker finished the statement.

Boss died on December 13, 2022, aged 40. The dancer was best known for his time as the DJ on The Ellen Degeneres Show. It was Holker who confirmed the news to PEOPLE.

"It is with the heaviest of hearts that I have to share my husband Stephen has left us," she said in a statement. "Stephen lit up every room he stepped into. He valued family, friends and community above all else and leading with love and light was everything to him.

"He was the backbone of our family, the best husband and father, and an inspiration to his fans."

Just three days before his death, Boss and Holker were celebrating their ninth wedding anniversary.

In the days that followed the suicide, Holker said her mind raced with unanswered questions. But she pushed them to the back of her mind as she planned his funeral.

Accompanied by a friend, the widow recalled cleaning out their wardrobe to find clothes for Boss to be buried in for the service. It was then, she said, that she made an "alarming" discovery.

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Hidden inside her late husband's shoeboxes, according to Holker, was a "cornucopia" of drugs — mushrooms, pills, and "other substances" that were foreign to the grieving wife.

"It was a really triggering moment for me because there were a lot of things I discovered in our closet that I did not know existed," Holker told PEOPLE.

"It was very alarming to me to learn that there was so much happening that I had no clue [about]. It was a really scary moment in my life to figure that out, but it also helped me process that he was going through so much and he was hiding so much, and there must have been a lot of shame in that."

As for his drug use, Holker claimed she was aware that Boss would smoke marijuana and drink after their kids went to bed. But it wasn't until she read his journals for clarity that the 36-year-old discovered the extent of his demons.

"He was wrestling with a lot inside himself, and he was trying to self-medicate and cope with all those feelings because he didn't want to put it on anyone because he loved everyone so much," she said of Boss, who — in some journal entries — alluded to experiencing childhood sexual abuse by a male figure in his life. "He didn't want other people to take on his pain."

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