
"So you can make allowances for our son with his ADHD but not for me?"
My son and husband both have ADHD, both recently diagnosed. But with one big difference. My husband was diagnosed at age 39.
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When he asked me that question, I didn’t answer. In fact, I didn’t even pause to consider it.
I was irritated that he seemed oblivious for the millionth time to all the mayhem with the kids when I needed some help. I was annoyed and snapped at him something about his hyper fixation driving me mad again.
But in the days that followed, I thought so much about how I see my son’s ADHD so differently from my husband’s.
When your child and husband both have ADHD, it might seem to some that these similarities can be handled in the same way. The truth is though, how it plays out within the home could not be more different.
I met my husband when he was in his early twenties. All the traits he displayed, which we now know to be dead ringers for ADHD, were present but in the context of our early 20s these quirks made him exciting, passionate, adventurous, brave and incredibly humorous in my eyes. I thought he was amazing.